Specialized Therapy for Daughters with Narcissistic Mothers

Sometimes the devil you know is easier. Yes, your mom is hurtful and makes everything harder but at this point, she’s predictable in her unpredictability. You know what to expect.

Making any kind of change pokes the bear and you’re not sure you’re ready for that yet.

As familiar as she has become to you, you feel familiar with yourself, too. While you fear poking the bear, you may also fear having to sit with yourself. Filling empty spaces that have been occupied by tending to her and her needs can feel daunting. Getting to know yourself again can feel like so much work. It’s going to be messy and that’s enough to give anyone pause.

If you don’t work through that childhood junk, you’ll keep getting driven by your childhood stories.

If you think you’re unlovable, you’ll pick people who agree with that. If you think no one is trustworthy, you’ll isolate and push people away, thereby creating an aching loneliness in your life.

If you don’t deal with your stuff, you’ll run with the idea that you’re the problem and that kind of thinking brings you nowhere good. You’ll repeat your patterns and land in the same place over and over again.

What might it be like if you looked at your life and were able to find your breath? How might things change if you were in a life that you didn’t want to run away from? What else might you be capable of?

One day you woke up and you realized you weren’t depressed, anxious, or fearful. You’d found peace.

For the first time in as long as you can remember, you felt in control-not just of yourself but in what happens next.

You weren’t always thinking about, aware of, or dealing with your mother. You were finally first in your own life.

You were free of the burden and the weight that comes with silence.

Your truth was out there and you weren’t hiding from it or running from it. You were dealing with it and you were ok.

You could look at yourself in the mirror and smile because you had finally done it. You finally made the change. You said the hard thing. You did the hard thing. You stayed true to yourself and went after the life you really wanted.